Some women are down right stupid

[♥ Zili ♥]

Little dragon has an older half brother in kansas who lives with his dad, now he has a younger sibling on the way.

his mother is known to sleep around with men just to have a roof over her head, but she was married to the first man. he kicked her out when she refused to clean, get a job, or take care of her son. That's basically what happened with little dragon, only she did get a job and she did clean however she refused to take care of little dragon when she was allowed too (she was allowed to when little dragon's father was supervising by order of cps.) She was anorexic before, during, and after pregnancy with little dragon so she doesn't even take care of herself. She's been pregnant once since she had little dragon but lost the baby.

I feel she's just desperate to have someone cling to her and a baby is the perfect way for that to happen. I feel for her child though and fear for him/her. This woman hasn't been in the same home for any length of time since she left little dragon when he was 4 months old. I can't under stand why she would put a child through being homeless or letting her child grow up while she sleeps around to provide for her child just because she is too lazy to hold a job. Or is too much of a drama queen telling lies to her boss to keep a job (accused little dragon's father of being abusive to her last boss, we got a few different stories as to why she quit working, one of them was because the boss caught on to her lies.)

Why do women do this to their children? I never really got to see any of this growing up and I always thought I'd never have to be involved, or that it was only in much lower classes.... I'm finding out it happens to everyone and it makes me really sad that its happening again.

I can at least take solace in the fact that she wasn't able to take little dragon with her, so he'll grow up with a mom and a dad who work hard to provide him with things he wants and needs.

[daenelia]

I don't know why women want to have babies at all, to start with. But if you do have one, at least take responsibility for placing a life on earth.

For goodness sake, I agonized for years over the decision to take on a CAT with my boyfriend. And once we had her, and loved her, we agonized for months over the decision to get her a companion. (We are both single-kids, so we have no frame of reference for brother/sister stuff, but the cat was just lonely. We made the right decision and we are taking care of them. If we do that for cats, why can't some people do half of what we do for their own felsh and blood...?)

Then again, when I was 24 and my best friend said she was pregnant, I thought she was insane to be a mom so early in life. Only in retrospect can I say she did the right thing for her. She had no home or job when she was pregnant, but knowing that she needed to provide for her kid made her work double hard.

Maybe in the case you are describing, Zili, it is more down to an issue of self-worth/self-loating, rather than bad parenting. Maybe she really thinks so little of herself that she allows herself to be this insecure in life, as well as having the need to get unconditional love from someone so dependant on her... That is sad, you are right to feel that. But pity is not going to make her change.

[♥ Zili ♥]

From what she's told me and michael she exaggerates the story of her up bringing by calling her father a wife beater when her mother would start fights as well. She's of the mentality that a woman shouldn't have to do anything. But because of the mentality she's not useful to the men she dates and they tire of her so she wants someone to be dependant on her but she's unwilling to do the work to take care of that being.

she wasn't allowed to see little dragon unless michael was there to watch her, when he was there and the baby would scream and fuss she say "some better go take care of my son." michael and his then room mate said "now would be a good time for you to hold him, he just wants to be held." She'd fight them on it and then storm out of the house without ever touching little dragon

she'd refuse to make him a bottle of formula (she only tried to let him breast feed twice before she gave up...she was trying to feed him when he wasn't hungry duh) and if she did make a bottle of formula she'd take 15 minutes to do it. all you had to do is read the label two scoops and fill with water up to 6 ounces shake and then hand to the baby but she'd sit down and stare at the floor for a good 7-8 minutes between each step. she'd have to be told to go do the next step several times before she would actually go and do it.

she does want the unconditional love and depedancy, but she's unwilling to help a child. she unwilling to do anything but sit around all day staring at the wall. or typing on facebook.

[daenelia]

People like that should really be dropped in a forest somewhere with simple supplies and cooking stuff, and not be picked up until 6 months later...

... then again, they'd probably burn the forest down.

It's a shame she doesn't realise that people will be more willing to help her, if she is more capable of taking care of herself and others. Do good unto others and they will return it. Simple.

if she is really that uninterested in life (staring at wall, typing on facebook), maybe she doesnt have any skills or intelligence?

[♥ Zili ♥]

oh no she has skills she's actually a pretty good athlete from what I've been told she loves tennis she could get a job working at a gym she just feels like a man should take care of her 100%

intelligence she does lack i have no idea how she graduated high school she has the spelling of a 2nd grader. and she embraces the idea of the "dumb blonde"

[daenelia]

[...] deleted. I feel bad about bad mouthing someone I dont personally know... It is bad... Tempting but bad...

[♥ Zili ♥]

if she really wanted to she could take care of herself and a child but she wants to be waited on hand and foot and I just don't understand that.